I ask myself...
What if telling people to stop just stops their growth?
What if telling people not to be angry, just makes them more angry?
What if telling people not to feel their sadness makes them just a little bit more sad?
And what if...offering people space to be where they are with workable tools to "move through," whatever they are experiencing in any given moment-has much more value than
It seems to me, People are waking up. This is such good news!
This is very very important and waking up often involves moving through things. Things like anger. I ask myself: Why do people think the emotion of anger is not included in the process of waking up?
Here's my thinking: And Please NOTE:
Take what I say with a grain of salt though because-I've done a lot of work to restore many of my memories and that includes the memory of my birth (Trust me, I didn't believe it either and I tried very hard to discredit what I experienced until....everything I felt and experienced was confirmed by my mother)
My memory of coming into this world was such that- I was perfectly content, warm and fuzzy and I was....sleeping. All of a sudden... this crazy nurse comes along with her brutal ninja elbow - as she decided to do her best elbow ninja work by climbing on top of my mother and FORCE me out of my mothers womb.
From darkness to light, from being asleep to waking up.
I mean sure, awww look we have a precious baby gal..but before that lets not forget....a ninja dug her elbow into my mothers skin poking me in my little ass as I was forced out.
Being forced out- disturbed me greatly.
From that moment on, anyone trying to FORCE me to wake up in any way, shape or form (literally, metaphorically, or otherwise)-I do not like this. It disturbs me.
My forceful elbow happy nurse can't be the only-forceful elbow happy nurse that ever existed. I would imagine there are plenty of us sleeping innocent babies who had the gift of being FORCED out of our mothers. I don't know that..but it's possible.
So for me personally it does seem feasible and reasonable- when people begin to wake up-sometimes waking up includes things like: anger or being disturbed.
And I say: YES!!! Move through that and see what is on the other side...
Learning how to use anger instead of anger using us is a process.
A process that many people avoid at all costs.
And now we have this whole crazy push to BE ZEN NOW!!!
All of these Masters telling us...we must be different than where we actually are.
Then people end up:
"I must be zen." I need zen," "Give me zen," . "Oh Shit...where the hell is my zen?!?!?!?" "Hey man, you're getting in the way of my Zen!"
Let us not forget...A Zen Master practices it every day until being Zen is integrated on a cellular level. Until Zen is the Master and the Master is Zen...Yet- Even then...there is always something to aspire to.
Bit by bit. Day by day- they had to cultivate many things along their own path.
If there is a body/mind connection it is not enough to say-just stop being angry.. People need TOOLS
Here's what I believe can happen sometimes:
All that: Don't be Angry...Don't be Angry... followed with: "Your anger is not helping"
I cringe on my insides, just a little bit and
Maybe it is helping and
how do YOU know what is or what isn't helping- in any given situation?
Perhaps instead of telling people their anger isn't helping-help them with their anger (I'm just thinking out loud here)
I only think that because I've developed an appreciation for my own anger instead of being so very afraid of it or myself. Trusting one's self is a part of the journey in my opinion.
If it feels appropriate to me-I allow it. If it feels like I'm going to do more harm than good (Primarily to myself) I work those angry kinks out in a different way.
But I have noticed:
Very often people confuse passion for anger.
Also: when people try to hush me, stop me, bulldoze over me, try to force me- with their need for things to appear oh-so-pretty...(and whatever that looks like to them personally)
If I listen to them instead of my own wisdom-
I will make the choice to go back to sleep and when I make that choice - I am half dead. Therefore when I hear someone say "Shh, don't be angry"
What I hear is "Just play half dead for me so I get to remain comfortable"
What I hear is "I can not deal with your emotions because I have not dealt with my own."
What I hear is "There is so much violence in the world I am afraid you are contributing to that violence too."
And in the end....What I hear is "Go back to sleep-Sleeping Beauty, we liked you so much better when you were sleeping"
Now would be a great time to insert Hoʻoponopono
I love you
Please Forgive me
I am not living my life half dead to make others feel more comfortable. I've already decided this.
So there is that.
perhaps.....learning how to move our emotions could be another path to this thing everyone claims they want called -"world peace."
I guess we could keep telling people - not to feel all of their feelings because all we see is the violence and not all the other levels and layers that all add up and come long before the violence arrived.
We've been a society that has grown very comfortable with...
THE Elephant in the room...
Every day people suffer in silence
That is just as true as
Every day people are living in Bliss
Just so you get -what it means, what people are trying to say when they talk about what it means to live with and be comfortable with the Elephant in the Room....Literally, not just Figuratively or energetically
African bush elephant: 13,000 lbs,
African forest elephant: 6,000 lbs
Lifespan: Asian elephant: 48 years,
African bush elephant: 60 – 70 years,
African forest elephant: 60 – 70 years
So how do you help in a world that ranges everywhere from the heaviness 6,000 to 12,000 energy pounds- to those who live light as a feather and everything in between?
I don't know, I only know...
The more tools I collect in my tool box for how to move through any emotion I have...the more capable I become in managing my own life force. And I have to believe if tools help me, they would help others too.
because some people just are not interested in meditation. They aren't there yet and they don't need to be. What if it's not true that everyone on the planet should be meditating? I mean..
There are other ways. You know,
2 plus 3=5
Sometimes it's as easy as: Bioenergetics:
Bioenergetics is the part of biochemistry concerned with the energy involved in making and breaking of chemical bonds in the molecules found in biological organisms. It can also be defined as the study of energy relationships and energy transformations in living organisms.
One can lay on their bed, have a tantrum. Kick their hands and their legs and keep doing that until their body is moving with a synergistic rhythm. Through this experience those emotions (Like anger) get un-blocked and the chemicals change in a persons body. A sense of euphoria sets in. The mind can think on a very different level now because the body is being taken care of, not just the mind.
Things like that....simple basic things-can help someone. Then the more they do that, the more they understand they can get themselves to a different state...the more creative they can be.
Or just go take a walk in nature
Then on their own...people can learn what works for them....
Same with Sadness....