Mine would be “I’m allergic to Gossip, I break out in annoyance, disappointment and I will zip it or if it touches me, the people I care about, my life I will make it clear you may not come into my world with that nonsense.
Most of the time I mind my own business as it relates to what isn’t
my business. Here in my building we normally had three different mindsets in terms of what is or what isn’t someone else’s business. My people, the people who have been here and know me, it’s full out aloha. We all mind our own business, we never complain and we find workable solutions for things to keep the peace and reverence alive and moving and we also feed each other. There are no issues.
I put my ear plugs in at night and I wear my face mask. All kinds of things go down at night time that I have no idea what is going on. And if I ever do anything to disturb the community I take full accountability and I resolve it as reverently as I can.
Then there are the people who work a lot of hours. They don’t really disturb anyone but they are a little miserable because all they do is work. Those are the people that shoot first and they don’t ask questions later. They are warn out and bark at others. Mostly they just want to be left alone and I leave those types alone. They always have the story wrong though because they are too busy to connect in any real way. Still I mind my own business. I am always kind to them and I do not bother anyone. These people are not problematic to me. More times than not if time allows you learn how cool they actually are.
But then there is this third set of people who create chaotic moment after chaotic moment. They gossip and they create nonsense and bullshit. I don’t get involved or participate unless or until they try to bring that nonsense to me.
Recently, a young woman who I stay away from because she’s one of those attitude entitled rude young people traps me in the elevator wearing her finest entitled rude bulldozing attitude. She hasn’t said two words to me ever and al of a sudden she’s demanding that I give her my friends phone number because she has an issue with him and she says “He’s your boyfriend so I know you have his phone number”
First of all, he’s not my boyfriend and there is no way I’m giving this demanding entitled person anyone’s number let alone his. What the heck are you doing trapping me in the elevator like a vicious dog barking at me. I don’t even know you. Demanding, making up stories and acting like I’m the solution to your own chaotic problems. I’m a huge no to that.
I shake my head and say “You’re a very rude young person and no I am not giving you anyone’s phone number” She was at least humbled once I said that which was good to see but still. This annoyed me tremendously. It’s the same exact nonsense and bullshit I experienced when I met The Wolf. An amazing, articulate highly educated sharp man who just happened to be a black man. The wolf is an incredible human being and he’s actually one of my most trustworthy people. When he was here, these same type of people -suddenly all I heard was “She likes the black guys” Suddenly I’m labeled and he’s seen as being a piece of meat. The entire thing was so low level I was deeply annoyed but those people are all gone from here. Every single one of them no longer exists here in my building. Meanwhile the wolf is living this incredible life in Boston and no matter what I have to say or what is going on in my world, the man is always there. Our conversations are amazing, intellectual and stimulating. He remains incredible and they are all gone. I’m grateful for that.
In this now nonsense, I now have to contact my friend because whatever is going on between him, her and her boyfriend is his to handle. Not mine. I want no part of it. She’s actually mad at her boyfriend who said yes to my friend and rather than handle it with her own boyfriend she wants to bring her displeasure to my friend -which is also not something I want any part of.
My friend also used to work for our our resident manager. Trap her in the elevator. Not me. And don’t be running around the building gossiping and framing him as my boyfriend. And most certainly, do not project your relationship problems onto me or my friend. Handle that with your man.
I have very little patience for these types of things.
So I will just meditate and wait for their departure because people like that never last in this building anyway.