I've decided to embody the consciousness of "Moving the Way Love Moves" and what that means to me. I bring my body, mind and soul to each experience.
There is nothing in me that wants to hold back, connect in compartmentalized ways-Or not experience something so completely just because I will never see someone again.
I see no point in doing anything with anyone where I am not able to be so fully me, I am completely alive.
To Move the Way Love Moves is not a fantasy bubble or an easy way of being.
Half the time.. it means you are getting your heart-kicked.
Many times it means, wanting to withhold and moving in love anyway.
Other times it is so effortless, it feels like heaven on earth. (that's always the goal here)
Moving the Way Love Moves is no joke.
Here in Hawaii, the deeper meaning of aloha means: affection, compassion and mercy. It aligns with my nature. To me, even a no strings attached experience needs to be full of aloha. There is no reason for anything less. If we've chosen each other to be in play, fun and joy with-be in alignment with that choice - from start to finish. If you can do that, I'm in. If you can not do that, I'm in this time, but most likely not...next time.
Aloha....through to the end. Complete the experience, have reverence for the human experience from start to finish...
A reason, season or a lifetime isn't really as relevant to me personally.
For me, what is relevant is temperature. Being able to remain warm throughout, even to the end is where it's at for me.
To me, this is the problem in our culture. We think it's perfectly okay to leave someone in a cold way, in a rush, to not take the time to make sure each person is complete and the only sensation they are left with is: It was a pleasure to spend time with you, even briefly....because, you are conscious enough to "close" the connection with reverence and and understanding that people are living, breathing organisms....And more than that...those charming people who know how to complete an experience with another human being...they build a beautiful bridge where they are welcome again, next time (should there be a next time)
Those who cut off, cut out, cold and self-absorbed...There is something about that. A cold carelessness. I don't really believe the answer is to be mature enough to not care about how you are treated or to have a consciousness of "you shouldn't expect much from a connection that is only meant to be a few days long" I think that is just a breeding ground for the continuation where natural empathy keeps getting pushed to the side in the name of..... At this point, I don't even know what the "in the name of" would be!!!
Any man who has been taught, conditioned or carries a belief system that it is okay to end something coldly, harshly, quickly with no emotional intelligence, understanding or sense of awareness that every woman is someone's daughter, mother, sister too...
That type of man, scares the hell out of me...
If you aren't conscious enough to understand what brings out the feminine chaotic... if you don't care about that...or what you leave a person with after you go...or if you don't know you have a role to play inside of that....I don't know what to tell you other than...My yes becomes a no thank you. I don't care how hurt, bruised, shy or if that is self-preservation. If you can't match me in moving the way love moves, I'm the one who ends up with pain... And that's not really what I had in mind.
There are so many incredible men on the planet who are wise. They know how to close out...with reverence, in a way where a woman is left with only one sensation, and that is "Wow, what a gift that man is"
At the end of the day... That's where it's at. It isn't about length of time for me. It's about reverence. AGAIN!!!!!! AGAIN AND AGAIN...
That's my discovery there...