I'm still only a one year old after all :)
Had a wonderful time with my son and now I have an additional two days to remain in staycation mode.
I've also already had the blessing of a "FriendsGiving" celebration on a roof top here in Honolulu with many cool people and all of the delicious food I'm used to having with my family. I have a lot of gratitude running through me generally speaking anyway...This has been extra for me.
This morning, one of my friends told me her boyfriend doesn't like me because "you were #withher and so strong about it."
I'm like "Okay" At first I'm like "Why are you telling me this on Thanksgiving day?" But then things happen whenever they happen..
He must have been looking at my social media or something because I have never had a political conversation with the man. I can't help her with this. I can't help him either. I am who I am and that's just how it is. Period.
Is that something I am supposed to feel bad about? Because I do not. His opinion of me isn't my business. I've got plenty of people in my life who voted against her and we seem to be able to continue our connection in laughter, fun and joy without missing a beat. If he wants to generate problems and plant negative seeds in his lovers head over my stand for humanity (Hence why I was and am #withher)...he's free to spend his time that way. I do think that's a little bazar though. After all...he could be focused on loving up and all over HER instead of being negatively focused on ME. Seems like a waste of precious time to me.
The irony is this...
I'm usually the friend who is also #withhim when my friends are happy and have moments where the feminine chaotic doesn't allow room for fairness. Doesn't matter to me who "he" voted for. The only thing I care about is the smile on my friends face. Even then, their relationship is really not my business anyway.
Even if his opinion of me causes a divide in my sisterhood with her...I'm actually okay with that too. I can't control anything or anyone.
I have no desire to do so. I'm not interested in being used in these ways. I mean, if you want to use my political stand for humanity as a negative thing in the space between you and your lover-you can. It's just that...it's not really going to change anything. That space does not belong to me and my political stand on humanity isn't ever going to change either. Every aspect of my company, who I am and what I stand for...is in alignment. I feel good about who i am and what I stand for.
I love her honesty, I love his honesty. And...it changes nothing.
I had that happen before I left for Honolulu. My friend had her lover on speaker phone. He began to gossip about me. It was weird. So weird. He didn't know he was on speaker phone and I was like "Woah. Why is he gossiping about me?" Mostly though his stand was for my chickens. He was a lover of living things. Committed to the care and well-being of poultry and he felt it was wrong of me to just abandon my chickens. In that case, hearing him on speaker phone did cut me like a knife. But that's just because I felt guilty about leaving my chickens anyway. Even though I was told repeatedly they would be well cared for...I still felt guilty about that.
On the spot, what he offered me was the opportunity to see my truth, my own guilt and be with it. That one did impact me.
So this isn't the first time some dude decided to share his dislike of me to one of my friends. His judgment wasn't able to change a thing either. He was just wasting his time using me in the space between them.
If that's how you want to spend your time...Okay... It's your life man...It's your life...
Him too...I was always #Forhim. My friend used to joke all the time that I was always defending him. "She's your biggest fan."
Yet, me being #forher or #forhim is really just me being for #Love. And being for #Humanity. Underneath all the nonsense...that's the pulse that runs through me...
Oh, So love being me :) My staycation is so good.