I'm only half way done and I've already given away so many things.
Cleaning for me is it's own ritual that often allows me to declutter and get present to other areas of my life as well.
I really like it and a part of me always has. I think that's because of my mother and music. Chores were often done to the sound of music when I was a kid and music makes everything so much better. However, I need a break from music as well right now. Just a little one....
While I'm on this path, this path of cleaning and minding my own business, being responsible for my own space....let me see what I want to watch and listen to as I'm doing the deeper cleaning, after all..I live alone and can do these types of things.....it's not really and no one can tell me otherwise as much as its...aloneness allows for these types of things...
So.......What do I want to watch as I do this deep cleaning?
Feminists: What Were They Thinking
I like to watch things first and then read the reviews of others. This allows me to have my own experience without anyone else's influence. Very often I find someone else's review to be the opposite of my own experience anyway so why allow that to influence me? Yet after I am curious as to how others experience these types of things.
For me, the documentary delivered based on it's actual title. These women told us all exactly what they were thinking plus they shared their personal journey's from that time period to now. The second wave of feminism is just one of four waves. There is this thing now where titles of articles and content within the article, does not align. The goal is to upset people just enough to have them open the article with the title and then calm them down when they read it. Yet a lot of the time, people don't actually take the time to read the articles. Then the comments are 500 triggered people who are only triggered because they didn't take the time to actually read the article. It's brutal to witness actually and it's also just another area where "More attention, less pressure" would be more kind and actually, more honest.
I thought it was pretty cool to have these women come together after forty years while looking at their own image in a book of photographs by Cynthia MacAdams. The book was published in 1977. When I was eight years old.
Lily Tomlin, Jane Fonda, and Michelle Phillips were all photographed in the book as well. It was interesting to hear their stories as women who were actually there at that time.
When I began to look at articles/reviews after watching, I noticed younger women who were not born during the second wave, were writing reviews and for them, this documentary was experienced as "Not Good Enough" and lacking focus.
I couldn't connect to that experience. It doesn't resonate.
For me, the women in the documentary literally shared what they were thinking at that moment, the moment those images of them were taken, how life was for them, their personal insights
"Not good enough" Not focused... These "reviews" landed on me in such a way...my thoughts floated to.....
How much do you expect these women to give you? They've done their part, are still showing up and I think that's pretty generous.
Reverence would be nice.... Just my own floating "me being me" thoughts...they come...and they go....
Each woman had something of value to contribute. A little golden nugget that could and will land and resonate on many women today.
Jane Fonda states: : "I just learned to say no as a complete sentence about 10 years ago" as she spoke on all the things she hated doing but did anyway all throughout her own career. There really isn't a woman that I know who hasn't struggled with this in some point or in some area of her life. She may be good with no now, but that has not always been true. And if you have a strong connection with other women who are both strong and soft, you know the truth of this.
Wendy JN Lee, a young woman, editor, producer and director shares her nature vs personality aspects she has had to cultivate in her industry. She speaks on how her nature is gentle and being more aggressive was something that she had to develop. She also explained she didn't realize the importance of feminism until she became more conscious. When she was looking through the book, she saw women who were free to be themselves. That felt good to her. "It makes you want to be free too"
Homecoming: A film by Beyoncè
I found myself moving all around, feeling energized, clapping...saying out loud "YAY!!!!!"
Some of the lyrics in some of the songs.....mid=way....The conservative part of me was like whoa. yet the woman who has been single since 2015 totally understood, I get it....and other parts, I don't have the black heritage so I can only listen to discover...
Sometimes, it really does take balls to be a woman....
Break time over...time to finish what I started