“We are not held back by the love we didn't receive in the past, but by the love we're not extending in the present.”
I LOVE THIS SCENE!!!!! OMG
As we see it, the real catastrophe is to come to the end of your life only to realize that by playing it safe and trying to avoid risk, you took the biggest risk of all, and lost the most valuable thing that you could lose: a life that was rich with meaning, feeling, and joy, one that not only filled your own cup to the brim, but spilled over to fill the cups of others who were moved and inspired by you.
I have this....in abundance. This emotional Honesty stuff.
There is no way, I will ever be willing to not thrive in the bliss of affection, empathy, tenderness, sexual excitement, peace, joy, and love,
Therefore; I am not afraid of things like:
anger, fear, jealousy, guilt, embarrassment, frustration, grief and even hatred.
I'm the water 💦
Emotional honesty combined with reverence for thy self and reverence for another human being - is a preventative cure.
It prevents psyche damage.
And what could be more important than our own psyche or that of another person?
Water takes the shape of the container it fills.
Unless there are cracks in the container. Then the water moves through the cracks. If there is mud in the cracks (Misplaced anger, verbal biting, or any of that nonsense), the water can easily get absorbed in the mud.
I am the water, there is no way I'm getting absorbed in someone else's mud. So I wash myself clean...through a little thing called: Emotional Honesty.
Dominant People vs Strong People
Emotionally strong people ...
- are less discouraged by setbacks and disappointments.
- are more adaptable to change.
- are able to recognize and express their needs.
- focus on getting around a hurdle rather than on the hurdle itself.
- can learn from mistakes and criticism.
- tend to see the larger perspective in a challenging situation.
- are able to recover more quickly from emotional wounds such as failure or rejection.
I have made a conscious decision....I am not doing the "what kind of man does that" or "what a coward" thing with men anymore. I am not stopping there. Because if water stops there...it is the water that gets muddy. -
"Water takes the shape of the container it fills."
I am water.... I will follow the thread that cleans me. I will want to do that with you because clean water wants to clean the container too...but if you don't have the capacity...I will do it without you. I will move through it because that's what water does, it moves through things....
My ability to be emotionally honest, vulnerable, reverent, raw, real without fear...makes some people very uncomfortable. In their discomfort, they bite, just like a toddler does. That kind of cold behavior in grown humans my age..that is a part of what makes me sad sometimes. Some of us get harder, some of us get softer....
I had this amazing opportunity, I was being invited into an unnecessary power struggle. Someone looking for a fight. Dominance. It did not work because I like clean water, not mud. I'm not going into the mud with you.
If I have to let the monkey's out...I have no problem doing that, because I am emotionally honest.
However in this opportunity, It would have been disingenuous of me to let the monkey's out.
I am allergic to cold temps in connection. So....
I'm just going to keep being...emotionally honest and my water stays clean.
I just follow the thread of my own truth. My own honesty. My own physiology and what is important to me.
Things need to feel good before, during and after.
All I can tell you is thank god for men like: The Wolf, The Eagle, The Rock, and even the Cowboy. Those are the men who can sit with a woman to completion. They feel good in the before, during and after. These are men who can do that. It's like they know...they understand women have cycles. They understand women have rhythms and there is nothing to be afraid of. All you have to do...is be emotionally honest-mostly with yourself. Men like the ones I've just listed...they know things....they know how to handle water as the water flows. They understand. They are the container and it's their desire...to enjoy the water....