"There is no manipulation, there's no suggestion." I'm a YES to that....
When I hear him define what TM IS and what TM is NOT...I'm a
YES...and I'm a thank you. Thank you. THANK YOU!!!!
What it IS:
And this is what it is NOT:
1 it's NOT a Philosophy
2. Does NOT involve any change in lifestyle
3. There is nothing to believe in.
"What it IS" is why I'm so deeply committed to it. For me, what I want is those three things. Simple elegance, a natural process and an effortless flow....
"What it is NOT," is also why I'm deeply committed to it. I'm not required to believe in anyone else's philosophy and I do not have to have a cookie cutter lifestyle. In other words, it doesn't matter how any TMer lives their lives, I'm free to be me and whatever that means....
I'm not here to be someone's minion. I look for those who have the capacity to live freely and allow others to do the same. For me, that's the ultimate bliss right there. Sometimes, the what something is NOT is just as important as....what something is...
There is nothing more complicated, more unnatural...requiring a great deal of effort (in my experience) than to try and force feed another human being into believing their joy, bliss and happiness isn't good enough, deep enough, enlightened enough. I don't even know what to do with that mind set other than to say "Thank you, no thank you."
At first, this aspect felt really intense for me. I'd feel like liquid bliss in motion...I was basking in something so pure. I was basking in:
"There is no manipulation, there's no suggestion."
When I began TM, I needed something that offered me those exact things Bob Roth speaks about in the first 2 minutes of the video. What TM is and what it...is not.
Today, I cried about my divorce. It will be two years in March since I made the choice to leave my marriage and I'm still having temporary moments of tears. This lets me know I am still healing. This also lets me know I'm alive.
I wasn't crying because my marriage is over, I was crying because I was in touch with something that was pulled out of me from having an in depth conversation today with some divorced friends. Something in me wanted to know the good moments they experienced with their former spouses. We began sharing what we enjoyed the most about being married to the men we were once married to. This was so beautiful to me because this conversation was taking place...not in a delusional way that makes you feel like a failure, or leaves you with a desire to return -but in a way that allows room for the fullness of another human being to be acknowledged.
I loved hearing from other women in this way. I loved the lack of "what was/went wrong." It felt more honorable to me to hear the good pieces. To have the good pieces inserted into the mix because -everyone has good pieces in them and so often in our loss of the dream, in our grieving and healing... we aren't able to honor what was good and by not being able to do that, we can actually harm ourselves further by believing the myth that there is something more deeply wrong with us than there actually is. In this way, each woman had the opportunity to bring the focus back to what she loves about being married, about being in connection, about having someone in their lives. The fear or sense of failure begins to dissipate, replaced by a stronger pull into the light.
Fear, what we don't want, what we don't want, what we don't want.
Love, what we do like, what we do like, what we do like.
What we do/did like about ourselves, them and the connection itself.
In Marianne Williamson's "A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles" She writes:
“You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think. The truth is that you are responsible for what you think, because it is only at this level that you can exercise choice. What you do comes from what you think. ”
She also writes:
“In the absence of love, we began slowly but surely to fall apart.”
“Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of heaven.
Fear in your mind produces fear in your life. This is the meaning of hell.”
Recently I was speaking into something positive about myself and someone said "Yes but you picked the wrong husband by being that way."
I reflected on the "yes but..." for a moment....
It is true...my marriage didn't last forever and doesn't have a happy ever after ending. However, does that really mean: I'm supposed to walk around wounded and worried, feeling like a failure... wearing some imaginary letter D pinned to my chest similar to the scandalous Scarlett letter A
D for divorce. D for defective. D for dumb. D for delusional.
This would be the "What," my meditation practice makes harder and honestly, nearly impossible to believe in.
If it's true as Marianne says: Love produces Heaven and Fear produces Hell...I'm much more interested in Heaven.
Heaven....I'm in Heaven.....
And reach the highest peak
But it doesn't thrill me half as much
As dancing cheek to cheek
Oh, I'd love to go out fishing
In a river or a creek
But I don't enjoy it half as much
As dancing cheek to cheek
Now, mama, dance with me
I want my arms about you
The charms about you
Will carry me through, yes
It wasn't this full out, can't think, can't breath, down on my knees, dark night of the soul cry. It was just tears slowly welled up and came out of my eyes until they were all gone...due to the fullness and the beauty of being able to hold someone as fully as they truly are.
simple, natural and effortless....
TM makes it really hard to not be in alignment with my own true nature and whatever that means at any given time.
“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
I'm going for....Heaven....I'm in heaven....as for me, that makes everything seem so much easier....