And then...every once in a while an Angry or Wounded Feminist bulldozes into this connection as if she is doing women's work or a service of some sort. Certainly, she thinks her intention is to protect her sister against potential danger, now or long term, however, when she forgets to feel into the connection between two people, doesn't notice the juicy glow beauty of the women, doesn't feel into the heart of the man and she doesn't even ask the woman how she feels or doesn't take the time to ask her what she wants...that's not really helping anyone.
Sometimes as well-meaning committed strong women we think we are helping yet all we are doing sometimes with some of our sisters is-insulting their emotional intelligence, interfering in their lesson and laying our own anger or our wounds onto two perfectly happy juicy shinny people who are totally safe and already know how to be very playful and understand what turns them on.
If you see a woman who can't get the smile off of her face and her beauty is exemplified due to the love she is experiencing with "her man," and you ignore that and all other indicators and instead bulldoze what's true for you onto strangers you don't even know....-chances are great you have an unhealed wound or you've been distorted and have a filter. Perhaps you work with battered women or have been one yourself. Who knows, maybe you grew up with a father who would say to your mother "My woman," as he was wearing his wife beater, drinking his beer and essentially violating her essence so you grew up deeply committed to no woman ever being treated like your mom was treated. Therefore, every time you hear a man say "My woman," you're being triggered but that doesn't mean he's being an ass hole.
I'm certainly not promoting turning the other cheek for those who need help and I am absolutely not advocating for the lower energies that are not okay on any level.
What I am saying is...there are some incredibly smart women who want to be completely ravished by the unapologetic masculine and when the term "my woman," comes out...there is heat and juice and playfulness involved, not you are my property.
To understand the difference you have to be healed a little more, lived a little more, be a little wiser and understand there is a whole big world out there where people are making conscious choices that work for them and some of those choices are expanded choices even though that wouldn't work for you.
In other words, these women are not you or your mother or the women at the shelter and he is not your father or the other men or the violent men who haven't evolved.
In order to know this, you have to be present, mindful and stop shoving your way as the only way to be in connection.
They were out on a hot date and they were having a blast -when a strange woman decided to lecture him for calling his lover "my woman"
She began to tell him all of the reasons why he should never ever ever call her (or any other woman on the planet) "his woman"
How she wasn't his property. On and on this woman went. He knows she's not his property and he said so. Gently, not in anger.
Now, my friends are conscious and aware that in this world, not everyone is as fortunate as they are. That there is domestic violence and it is true that when some men say "My Woman"-they do believe a woman is their personal property.
Their awareness combined with their clarity and no real need to have their love validated by strangers who don't have a clue on who they are, what works for them or how deeply they can trust their own love- they allowed the woman to do her thing.
Their individual self love is handled.
Their lover love for each other runs deep.
So much so...their cups runneth over to anyone in their world. Their generous with friends and family and the entire community. It's very sad to me that this woman didn't take the time to feel into that and instead decided to try and interfere in that. She missed out, big time.
What stayed with me the most though... as they shared this story with me was the reverence they gave this woman and others like her.
They don't get angry, they don't change themselves or feed into strangers opinions, beliefs or do what someone may or may not thinks they should do. They don't listen to or allow others to be the expert of their love or tell them how to do love, partnership or connection.
They just do their love in alignment with their own natures and that works for them.
I love how their love handles those who feel they have a say in the matter.....
It's not a F'you-we are going to do our love our way. It's more like a "We respect you, we hear you, we will allow your voice to be heard in the same way we respect ourselves and each other-thank you for sharing and we are going to stay in our love because...our love is working very well for us.
They are BRILLIANT
He's clear..the term my woman is about her ultimate pleasure.
She's clear..his meaning is about her ultimate pleasure.
They are clear because they are experiencing ultimate pleasure.
It's that simple
But ultimately, they don't let anyone get between them. No third party influences have any power...and man...that is super hot.