Friday, someone asked me this question and it hit my frontal cortex and shot down through all of my chakras. What an awesome question!
That said, timing is everything....
In my Love affair with myself, I divide my Friday's into two completely different intentions. The first part of the day is all about, what my dear friend Monique Darling would call "Love the skin that you're in." This could last for several hours. While it may sound like a luxury, for me-it's more of a ritual that has the power to make me so much more productive.
(This is what I was doing when the question came in)
"So Christina, what do you crave?"
My answer is pleasure and all of the sensations that come with living a pleasurable existence. For me, there is a lot to that. It's very pleasurable for me to find ways to expand my consciousness.
In Alexander Lowen's book "Pleasure: A creative approach to life," he writes:
"The secret of pleasure is hidden in the phenomenon of excitation. A living organism has the inherent capacity to hold and increase his level of excitation; it does not change from inertness to responsiveness like a machine when it's motor is started or the current is turned on. There is a continuous excitation in the living organism which increases or decreases in response to stimuli producing from its environment broadly speaking, an increase of excitation leads to pleasure, a decreased to boredom and depression."
I'm going to go for whatever leads to the most pleasure and find ways to make the not so pleasurable necessary aspects of being a responsible adult -more pleasurable.
My figuring out what excites me and letting those things be my main focus...it makes everything a little more juicy.
By the time I am in my second intention of Friday's which is- working with my tax team. I am already so full and excited-it's easy to transition into something I don't personally associate as "pleasurable."
By the time I hop on the computer for my next lesson or to upload my business and personal receipts I am really happy.
By taking the time each week with my tax team, it's quick and painless and dare I say...even fun?
I crave pleasure and I'm also willing to find creative ways to experience more of it.
I crave growth and I'm also willing to do the internal work necessary. I'm always on the hunt for my next growing edge.
I crave soulfulness in all things.
I crave internal freedom, creativity, vibrancy, harmony, joy, laughter, love, expansion and whatever it takes to experience all of that.
And I want a partner who is equally committed to creating life as pleasurable. But what constitutes a life of pleasure is subjective.
In Matthew Kelly's book "The Seven Levels of Intimacy," he writes
Are you willing to suffer for love? How much are you willing to suffer in order to have a truly amazing relationship? Are you prepared to let go of all of your wins, cravings, and fancies, in order to pursue something more mundane, something simpler?"
My answer was an absolute NO. I am not willing to suffer. At all. But again, suffering is subjective. Whims, cravings and fancies can be either harmless or harmful. It really depends.
Then he goes on to say,
"You cannot expect to drink the emotionally thirst-quenching waters of real intimacy if you are unwilling to make the arduous journey into the mountains where this water springs forth. If you are not willing to pay the price, then you must stay in the emotional cities and drink your bottle of water. The springs of intimacy are not for emotional Tourists; they are for those committed to knowing and being known."
I don't know how I feel about that one.