“Important encounters are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other.” ~ Paulo Coelho
Does this feel true?
Soulmates can enter your life masked as friends, family members, and lovers. They fill a passion and desire that needs to be learned. Once the assignment and guidance is completed a soul mate usually exits the picture, often times leaving an inconceivable amount of heart ache.
A life partner has similar interests in your life. This person is the cheerleader, the pillar of strength and support that encourages you to take risks. Unlike the soulmate, a life partner sticks around regardless of what obstacles and challenges are ahead. Life partners are spiritually and emotionally connected without egotistical notions.
*Maybe. I don't know. It feels like one possibility. If this is the case why the heck is everyone looking for their "soulmate" I think that's a legitimate question considering the frame work of this particular distinction. I know lots of people who have egotistical notions. Lol.
"Soulmates have a deep connection through heart and consciousness. They hit the ego and bring about turmoil. The relationships are intense and full of transitions. These beautiful experiences usually end in broken hearts. Soul mates bring with them karmic lessons that need to be completed in this incarnation.
Life partners arrive at a moment when there is self love and acceptance. You are no longer needing to fulfill an emptiness that cannot be explained. These partners join you with similar stories. They are there for the long haul."
“A soulmate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to tranform your life.” ~ Elizabeth Gilbert
Soulmates arrive at a specific time when something needs to find closure. Amazing lessons come through these relationships. The love that is shared is ecstatic and sometimes full of hard obstacles. These two people are trying to find footing in a relationship that brings out the best and worst in each other.
The relationship with a life partner is easy. It begins without work. It continues to connect through the current day-to-day events. There is no past or future stories that manipulate the union. There is just right now. These relationships have healthy marriages because both sides are ready to create a oneness while still remaining in their own individuality and authenticity.
I think this is important to acknowledge because it's a load of nonsense that leaves single people feeling like they are less than or that they have to hurry up and find "THE ONE." When many people in marriage don't even know...they are "the one," anyway and in not knowing that...they hold onto each other in misery and call it...well whatever they call it.
That's cool, we all get to make our choices in life..Right? Reverence for all things....
You are no longer needing to fulfill an emptiness that cannot be explained
Personally, I think anything is possible and we get to create our lives any way we want.....
The Ever Elusive TWIN FLAME>>>>
More from the Power of Positivity:
THE LOVE EXPERIENCED BETWEEN TWO REUNITED TWIN FLAMES IS LIKE A WILD BEAST. It can’t be captured. It can’t be contained. It can’t be tamed. Instead, it burns fiercely with an unquenchable form of intensity that is both exhilarating and formidable. The love experienced between twin flames is like Holy Fire: it burns you to ashes, but it also forges you into a new creature, like a Phoenix emerging out of the dust.
Below Taken from: THE LONER WOLF
(Many sites say the same thing about the stages-and just like everything else, the stages aren't clean and clear, they can move in any direction-as far as the research indicates)
Although every twin flame relationship is unique and can’t be simplified, there is a general pattern that tends to emerges in these unions. As a person who went through a twin flame fusion, I know how overwhelming (and even terrifying) such an experience can be. I would have loved to read an article on common tell-tale twin flame signs when I was going through such a disorientating experience. But back then I knew nothing of twin flames or their significance. So here I would like to provide you with what I lacked: a general map that can help to guide you and pinpoint where you are right now.
STAGE ONE – YEARNING FOR “THE ONE” In this preliminary stage you have spent your entire life pining for “The One” that doesn’t yet exist in your life. You have this strange sensation that someone who is perfectly molded to you is “out there” but you don’t quite know where or when they will appear in your life. Although you ache for your twin flame, you have a feeling they will appear to you at some point.
This stage is also sometimes spent “preparing” for the arrival of the twin flame on an unconscious level. In my instance, I had to learn how to love myself before I met mine. For others, this stage of preparation involves the development of self-awareness, discovery, and understanding.
STAGE TWO – GLIMPSING “THE ONE” At some point, you will have a brief glimpse of your twin flame. Whether this is through a dream signal, or through a real life meeting, suddenly the Beloved can be sensed. The result is profound. Wonder, joy, anxiety and intoxication quickly ensue. For those cautious among us, a lingering sense of intense curiosity and desire to get to know the person better is the result. You don’t know what it is exactly, but this person is extremely special. Like me, you may even sense that this person will play an immensely important role in your life – even before you know them properly.
STAGE THREE – FALLING IN LOVEWhen you fall for this person, you will fall very, very hard. You will fall harder than you have ever fallen for anyone – and the impact will knock the breath right out of you. In fact, as you get to know your twin flame better, you will fall more and more deeply in love with them. As a result, you’ll find it hard to stand with two feet on the ground. You might feel disorientated, lovesick and “unlike yourself.” You may even try to resist the attraction, but eventually you’ll accept the reality that you’re deeply and madly in love.
4. YOU BEGIN TO SEE ALL ASPECTS OF YOURSELF.Every relationship teaches something valuable about the self. Once the initial passion starts to stabilize and daily routine takes over, you begin to witness the many aspects of yourself. Twin flames not only have the same magical and wonderful dispositions, but they also mirror the dark parts of our souls. It’s in this space that we must learn to heal, forgive and partake in accepting all aspects of the self. It is always easy to live in the light of all goodness, but we are made in duality: dark vs. light, good vs. bad, and so on. These are the moments that we must be mature to understand that there is always soul work to be done in this human experience. This person will heighten all facets of ourselves.
Here is where it gets tricky
In this stage there is trouble in paradise. As the ecstasy from the initial meeting period wares off, egos start to flare up. Suddenly differences in opinion, taste and personality arise, and old core wounds emerge out of the gloom. While our twin flames share and mirror our deepest needs, desires and dreams, they also tend to mirror our shadow selves. For example, if you are an emotionally repressed person, your twin flame will likely be emotionally explosive. If you tend to be arrogant, your twin flame will most likely be uncertain and quiet. In this way our twin flames challenge us, riling up our insecurities. This can be infuriating, devastating and very painful.
STAGE SIX – THE RUNNER AND CHASER
As tensions mount it is common for one partner (or sometimes both) to emotionally or physically withdraw and “run” away, and another to pursue in a game of cat and mouse. Sometimes this involves emotional shut down and silent treatments. Other times this involves physical separation and in extreme cases, the permanent termination of the relationship. In this stage, twin flames experience a trial by fire. While some relationships last and are strengthened, others crumble to pieces. As I mentioned at the start, this is all dependent on each partner’s soulful maturity. Sometimes one partner leaves for many years and then returns, only to repeat the cycle once again. The chaser, on the other hand, tends to be the more mentally and emotionally mature partner of the two, trying to sort everything out and make amends.
*That would essentially make me the mature person in every twin flame situation and that sucks a little.
STAGE SEVEN – SURRENDER AND DISSOLUTION
Once the shadow of your relationship has been revealed, you may experience a period of surrender. After so much anguish, distress and provocation, you both begin to open up about your wounds and insecurities. In this stage it is common to experience a lot of ego dissolution and soulful expansion. As the ego relaxes, powerful lessons are learned about the nature of oneself and the nature of the “other.” As you begin learning how to work through your differences, the maturity of your relationship deepens and thus strengthens.
STAGE EIGHT – ONENESS
As the problems in your relationship become increasingly easy to deal with, you will enter a period of soul reunion. In stage eight it is common for you to both find a shared meaning, passion or cause that brings you a mutual sense of fulfillment. As the ego continues to relax, virtues such as forgiveness, understanding, empathy and patience are learned. The more you both work through each issue that comes your way vigilantly, the more you experience the sensation of “Oneness,” or ego death.
This is a true miracle.
Robert Redford choses a "lovely girl," one that is as simple as he is with the breeding he has...whereas Barbra Streisand is a very strong, passionate advocate for many things that disrupts the status quo. They love each other a lot....I could go on and on about this movie most likely. What is Barbra? Is she not life partnership status? Is she his soul mate? Or are they twin flames who were in stage 6?
Dear lord,...how can anyone know what the heck is what?
Can it be that it was all so simple then?
Or has time re-written every line?
If we had the chance to do it all again
Tell me, would we? Could we?
Mem'ries, may be beautiful and yet
What's too painful to remember
We simply choose to forget
So it's the laughter
This is why I love music so much and how love songs can very easily represent different stages and offer us something to think about to expand..if we want to.
How about that Taylor Swift saying "I think when it's all over, it just comes back in flashes, you know?"
"The worst part of it all wasn't loosing him, it was loosing me."
Powerful Words Young Lady!!!
Isn't that interesting :)
Scattered pictures of the smiles we left behind
Smiles we gave to one another for the way we were.
“The soul, fortunately, has an interpreter - often an unconscious but still a faithful interpreter - in the eye.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre
“Then love knew it was called love.
And when I lifted my eyes to your name,
suddenly your heart showed me my way”
― Pablo Nerud