No pettiness. No competition. No trying to get me to align with them but rather -allowing me the space and dignity to be where I am at this time.
For me, it's reverence and flow.
With these types of women I don't have to repeatedly drain myself to remind them to show up with as much reverence for me as they have for themselves. They are like me in this way.
Since I offer that - it is really lovely to have that be what's leading, natural and reciprocated.
The other day at lunch in our authentic conversations, one of the women said to me "You're also experiencing biological, hormonal and physiological changes as a woman and I want to remind you to remember that because being gentle with yourself is important at this time" Her words were like butter to my soul. I thought "yes. I did forget about that part"
I so appreciate her reminding me of my truth rather than trying to fix, tweak or change me. It is so nice to be heard.
She respects our differences, enjoys our similarities- as she holds her own shape.
Our connection did not start out that way. Here's how our meeting began
She showed up with her Boss Woman on.
I was a very clear No, You are not my Boss Woman.
Neither one of us felt good about the other and it was left in that space.
The next time I saw her, I was very happy to see her because I didn't like how that went down. How I showed up. I apologized for my part. She accepted my apology and she apologized for her part. Then I invited her into my space and offered her some soup. Once in my space she began to melt into a relaxed state. "There is something about your space, I'm feeling very relaxed here" I hear that all the time from people.
The goodness of my soup was also pretty helpful.
We began to share openly and honestly and that included how we experienced each other that day and all of our thoughts about each other. We ended up laughing about that. She shared her default is to be the boss lady. I shared it is my default to reject that type of thing. Yet these aren't bad things. Her boss is a solid quality that's very good and my ability to remind people they aren't my boss is a very good thing too. Yet in that moment...her Vata was out of balance and my Pitta was out of balance. Once we got back into our own natures, it all worked out so beautifully and I have to say, it's been over a month, I see her all the time, we have shared many meals and we haven't had any issues or breakdowns since. We just keep leaning into wanting to enhance and enrich each others lives. As our focus continues to be that, we are learning so much about one another and we just keep becoming more and more impressed with each other. She's amazing. She has a deep reverence.
I'd have completely missed out on knowing her had I been willing to leave it below the line of affinity. I'm so grateful that doesn't sit well with me. I'm even more grateful that she accepted my invitation to....try again. Grateful. Grateful. Grateful.
Now we laugh and laugh and connect and eat and....we laugh....
And we have a few projects we are doing together. It's been amazing...
In Other News:
When I looked on this strangers profile, I noticed this person was a landmark graduate. I will come back to how I felt about that later...
What would cause a stranger to feel compelled to forward me these things is far less interesting to me than my experience of these visuals and what I read. However, I just posted something about "my stepdaughter" the other day and other things that could have prompted this. I'm like "What does this stranger thing I am...Jennifer Aniston or something? Someone is spying on us both? Seeing how this all plays out? As I said, I will come back to how I feel about an educated landmarkian doing this...later... for now.... as far as me being me is concerned.....
It is often in retrospect I become aware something is complete or gone for me. I looked at that happy family image and it made me feel warm. What I saw and what I read... I'm aligned with much of what I read about so there isn't anything in that article that doesn't make sense to me. I think he is marrying very well indeed and I believe he's found someone who is just like him in a lot of ways. I think that's awesome.
And I also saw.....
A choice, a lifestyle that I do not want or desire in any way. That too was awesome for me!!!!
I love this line from "The Mirror has Two faces:
Rose Morgan: Why don't you get the coffee?
Hannah Morgan: I've buried a husband, I've raised two daughters. I've made my coffee.
I would be Hannah and I've had my coffee. What I mean by that is, I'm good, full and complete on the life of raising humans and all of that stuff. I already did that (since I was 19 years old)
Fullfilment (it seems to me) is subjective, fluid and highly individual.
More people filled him.
Less people filled me.
Ah, my sweet former marriage.
It's the story of the tortoise and the hare.
Only we both win
Through my current reality with the loss of my father, I wasn't really paying attention to the truth that I am totally over my marriage body/ mind and soul and at a level I wouldn't have understood or known.
So thank you stranger...
I do however want to talk about being a landmark graduate and rather than applying those tools to enhance your own life, instead you are sending someone's former spouse images and links... As a landmark graduate, it makes me wonder if you "Got it."
This is not terrible behavior on anyone's part, it's just mostly...odd. (to me)
More and more each day, I'm becoming present to the massive difference between my every day reality world (the space where I live and all the people in it) vs the on-line world of strangers. Landmark is something that I love but I don't love it in a blind way. I feel the same way about a lot of technologies however the two that I compare the most are landmark vs scientology.
As it relates to my experience with both technologies in Landmark vs Scientology, having access and being open to digging into both technologies has created an awareness that people who think they are divided and are learning different things (One better than the other) are actually all learning the same principles.
It's just delivered to them differently.
All the courses in Landmark (including the wisdom course) is only slightly different (context wise) than the bridge in Scientology.
I am personally grateful for both.
Co-existence is more my thing.
Take what will work for you and disregard the rest...is also one of my things
It doesn't matter what any organization is or what technology is available, people will do what they do and that is true in all realms.
Here is what I'm now noticing.
While I continue to go to the places to enhance the quality of my own existence and I'm careful about where I go and with whom because I'm still working on acceptance with the loss of my father. I know what I need and I now know what makes it worse for me at this time, so I'm very careful with my own life energy.
I have met humans from all over the world who are all taking on their humanity growth via different principles, practices, religions, mind sets and more.
Mostly I have been meeting people who don't have a negative response to the vast collection of information I have accumulated over the last two decades.
I have these moments with deeply religious people who are just as curious about Scientology as they are about Landmark or any other resource because like me, they are looking for the similarities and ways to relate and expand their awareness to find principles and places that have the power to connect them to their stand that "we are one."
Who I am: By Hanna Leigh
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