I wish so much that I had this when I was married. I wish I had the clear headed thinking to be able to create this, even though I'm not really sure if it would have worked or not...The point is....Those who want more usually can't see all the gifts, love,beauty, and ways they already have so much abundance in their connection already, nor do they seem to understand, the way to get what they want would be to appreciate all of those moments and things they already have. This kind of mindset works because it changes us on a cellular level, it lifts us and when being present to all that we have lifts us, our minds are more sharp and the other person is usually more willing to co-create with us at higher levels. Sometimes, the only thing that is missing is gratitude and reverence. At other times people seem to be very programed to lean into and spend more time on give me more...and more and more and you know, people are just people, they can't be forced to give...besides, it is so much sweeter when they feel good and their giving comes from within their own sense of wanting...
So anyway...about this game/experiment I've been doing. It's very simple.
The other day I heard myself say "Aww, you need more, you must be forgetting to move with gratitude, Let's to a GRATITUDE PRAYER, Shall we?" and I just kept moving, I found a candle to light and as I was lighting the candle, I began speaking on all the things I am grateful for with this person. I truly shared my appreciation, which has become seriously easy for me to do. Now this moment was funny because I also spoke for this person "And you, understand so deeply that my time and my attention is a gift I am giving you and you appreciate it so very deeply, it makes you feel very happy"
I said "That's an example, do you have something you want to share from your own insides?"
The other person did not want to share...I had handled the bullseye of what was missing and as a woman, I did so reverently.
All I can tell you is...there was a complete turn around. Not for me, but for the other person. I was already full, in gratitude and happy. However, what my attention did was.....re-direct what already exists. The simplicity of that...changed everything....and in the end, the fulfillment was felt-nothing more required of me than to remind someone the power true gratitude has...
So that's really all there is to it....I find different ways to do this
1. I lean in
2. Heart Open
3. Create an On the spot ritual
(which includes me sharing from my own gratitude first)
That is all.