On the eve of Mother's Day I received the picture above of the chickens. The caption that came with it was "Mother's Day Feast"
This melted my heart and the tears ran down my face. Because with me out of the picture, their care is dependent on him. To see that he has taken the time to feed the babies treats-to see the healthy colors-for some reason...made me feel so happy.
I think this is multi level for me. It just feels good to see him stepping into caring for the chickens in this way. Almost like it re-affirms my disappearance is the best thing for all involved. As silly as that may sound-there comes a time where you are present to how the relationship you created wasn't serving anyone's higher good. It becomes the foundation for why it's important to transition away from living with each other every day. My presence created a "she will do it call," mentality-which didn't leave room for him to get to know the chickens or spend the amount of time necessary to care for them which becomes a natural process.
Prior to my leaving, I did some traveling and had to write out a detailed list of their care. At some point during that time, I said something to the effect of "if you just loved them, you wouldn't need me to create a list. Your love would lead you to do the right thing for them." At that time, he didn't get it. Didn't understand what I was saying.
To see this love and care develop and grow without me being there pleases me greatly. Then again, there is a deep sweet loving way to him and I know that. I've experienced that in him. It makes me so happy to get-me being gone has already served him and them.