I lost some followers...again :) This happens under 3 conditions (as I've been doing these experiments for 18 months now)
2. Women's empowerment
3. Human Sexuality
This time, I actually "trimmed," the video down very significantly. Primarily because it's an Australian movie and in their culture paradigm, the word "C U next Tuesday," Is literally no big deal. I know this to be true now because I live in Honolulu Hawaii and I meet people from Australia every single day! In the video: the woman was talking about the difference between a vagina man and a "c u next Tuesday," man.
In the clip she says... "So a man who can take a wet woman is a man who likes women. It's the biggest point of difference."
She goes on to say "If she's a wet woman, she's wet everywhere...Outside, inside, in her brain. Female sex is wet. Women are wet, men are dry."
I have to say, it was brilliant. She really nailed it.
She's really making a statement about dry men too as she is talking about the differences between a V man vs a C man...I deleted that part, to "soften," it and I'm glad I did because the word wet or even wet woman...Well there is something about that...that "disturbs people. I refer to those people as the Catapillar's in our culture....
While our sexuality is as natural as it gets...it remains a topic of shame, inappropriateness, leaving many uncomfortable and disturbed. Mostly, all she did was articulate what happens to a woman who is vibrant, alive and sexual.
If you're raising children who will continue to grow and one day be men and women on the planet, it's pretty important to have them understand the reality that comes with their sexuality and allowing their nature to flourish by not making their nature wrong. We can't even handle words like "Wet," because we've associated that with the vagina only. It's a big one.
Yet, what Angie is saying-speaks beyond that. I love this because, there are so many women who tell me they avoid sex, sexual relations, not because there aren't any good men out there, but because they can't handle their own "wetness." And what they are telling me is exactly what Angie is saying. It is beyond their vagina. It's their whole body, the inside, the outside and yes...their brains! These women do not trust themselves or their own bodies because no one has taught them how to own that. The options are -just wait for him (the right man) or think of other things, like your education or your career. As if sex education isn't a part of being educated? Mother's often do not prepare their daughters on how to handle and own their sexuality fully (their mother probably didn't teach them either-this isn't wrong, it's just been a missing) and something takes over-on the inside, on the outside and in their brains anyway. It happens to the brightest most incredible-highly educated women who got their degrees and did all the right things. They still don't know how to own their wetness and they can't help their daughters own theirs either. It's a problem.
Instead of cultivating the gift of their wetness and moving through to be able to own all of themselves, so they are free to make all decisions without fear of their own natures... they starve themselves.
It's very similar to when women avoid all food except lettuce because they don't trust the high food gives them or the lows of gaining weight (worse than death itself) - so all food must be completely eliminated except for lettuce.
According to the outside world: The problem is food, the problem is sex, the problem is men, the problem is women, the problem is drugs....when the real problem is disconnection and the inability to cultivate a relationship with our own natures. In addition to the cultural problem of what a good woman does, thinks or believes vs what "other, " women believe.
Who a woman needs to be, to be the good mother. (that whole thing) Who a woman needs to be to "get the man," and then "Keep the man." Be sexless to get the job but also be sexy too.
Rather than what would be the most incredible, most vibrant thing a woman can cultivate on her path to own herself so fully that her physiology is running on optimal and she is no longer afraid of sheer pleasure moving through her own body.
What Angie is calling a wet woman: is simply a woman who loves life to the fullest and that includes sex.
Yet, the concept of a woman being a wet woman......Disturbing and inappropriate. Both things lead into the sexual health and well-being of humanity. It's okay to eat some blueberries to hold tight to your sexual health for a man AND it's most certainly okay to be a wet woman. Healthy. Very healthy.
I sent the unedited version to my most valued butterfly tribe people and to one who tip toes between being a butterfly and wanting to be with the catapillars.
Everyone got it-instantly...except there was no response from that one who tip toes. She could get it or she could be rejecting it...I don't know. I won't know.....
The butterflies walking around the island in the form of humans from different countries...
There is always the question or comment about how the world, culture or any particular society operates in terms of violence is okay, but the human body and all of the natural elements to the human body is somehow....not okay.
Living in a place like Honolulu, Hawaii offers me the opportunity to connect with humans from all over the world. If it's the professor from India, or it's the couple from Italy, or the young woman from Australia... Everyone wants to know why violence is okay but the human body is not. They do not understand how love, connection and what is very natural is problematic as violence is "normal."
Black and White and Sex. It begins strange with the man interviewing Angie and Angie acting strange in their discomfort with one another. Angie shows up "overly sexual" and seemingly non intelligent. First impressions - deceiving. She's actually very intelligent with a science degree. You don't learn this until or unless you stay with the movie just a little bit longer.
We had this conversation recently in one of my female circles. How there are layers to people. Who they are and what they are about, and if you don't take the time to know them...you never get to know them.
She speaks on things like God. In terms of a loving god. A god committed to people coming together in union, connection and giving of each other.
She speaks on pleasure and pain and how many things are painful and pleasurable, like child birth.
She speaks on families. On Love. On the differences between what is just sex and what is love. She has a very unique wisdom and a broadness in her moods, thoughts and the way she express's herself. Being soft and compassionate in places, trying to find a way to articulate sensation in other places and being strong and dominate in places where bullshit was going down.
In the movie, there is a different woman standing in as "Angie," throughout the entire film. And she's wicked smart. I mean wicked smart. I don't want to give it all away in case any butterflies want to watch this movie...or if those sweet Catapillar's want to do that thing they actually do..."watch these things in secret and never ever tell a soul about it"
Women owning and allowing their wet bodies to be wet and learning how to cultivate the life enhancive physiological power of their nature aka their sexuality aka their wetness rather than living in shame or shortages....allows them to heal their stories, navigate their lives and live vibrantly.
So I can't worry about people who are "disturbed" and people have the right to do what they want.
Things disturb me too and I do what I want with that as well....It disturbs me to see women shaming other women. It disturbs me that women hide in shame and feel bad or go without simply because the world can't handle her natural wetness. The whole thing is just weird to me. I like to know what the truth is for every woman and see where I can be of service to her. That helps me be a little less "Disturbed."
As far as I know...ALL WOMEN have a story...
Excerpt from my not edited yet book:
It really takes “something,” to hold a woman where she is -with a level of reverence for her story -exactly where her story is. It takes empathy, compassion, humility and kindness. Often, it takes having the capacity to see ourselves in her story. Often, our support has its own intention because we carry our own stories. Our support is either to help her or truly, she just annoys us because we see where we once were and we don’t ever want to go back there.
We do that as humans in our unconsciousness and our arrogance but we frame it as if we are “conscious,” now.
I’ve come to the conclusion: being annoyed by someone- being where they are in their development -speaks into something about us, not the woman who hasn’t told, healed or completed her own story."
All of this, as usual..is simply my opinion...