there’s that “too muchness, again.
He was surely correct I am the queen of processing. 👑
Leaning in...I decided to respond in vulnerability and kindness toward him with a little story. In holding my shape and remaining who I am-(a processing machine) his response moved him back into his own body/mind where he was able to deliver his own vulnerability. His next response was very Beautful and much more honest. 🌈❤️
Meanwhile some of the people who love me were giving me advice. “Dump him” “block him” “don’t waste your time”
However, how the heck are we ever going to grow into ourselves, cultivate holding our own shape or see one another’s real beauty if we are consistently doing that. Besides, everyone that comes into my world offers me an opportunity to expand my own capacity to work with the three pillars of self love, open heart and reverent communication. Sometimes I win sometimes I learn and all the time I can take the win or the learning and generate invitations to others and if it helps them that is wonderful.
And then there is the other side of that coin. Where other people’s too muchness hits me. Oh My God. It’s the same process... “lean in,” ..Vulnerability, Kindness and a little story. In all cases and in either direction...it’s back to the three pillars for me.
Self love in connection is a two way street as far as I’m concerned. Let me love myself so I have the capacity to give you what I give myself. Keep coming home to yourself. I think that’s what that means. But I don’t know that. It just feels that way