The ninth annual World Autism Awareness Day April 2.
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This Weekend's Movie...
20th Century Woman
Single mom with son movie. Good title too. You could see the different mindsets in women playing out per each generation.
I love Abbie's character and how she teaches the young man about feminism . She gives Jamie (the coming of age boy) books to read.
“Our Bodies, Ourselves” (Which has evolved and expanded through the years...
In a review in the New Yorker -Written by Richard Brody, he calls this young man: "something of a noodle, a jellyfish, perhaps the least-defined teen-ager on the West Coast, a kid without tendencies, curiosities, enthusiasms, impulses, a tabula rasa awaiting the inscription of the women in his life, who don’t delay in filling him in."
I was wondering if he and I saw the same movie. Why does a young, mostly calm and kind spirited kid need to be called a "jellyfish" or a "noodle." He couldn't connect to things like fixing cars but he was very interested in other things. And he tried hard to have an open dialogue with his mother about her own happiness. He wanted to know who his mother was, wanted her to open up to him. He was a good kid.
I could relate to his mom in terms of her feeling like she wasn't enough on her own to raise a boy into a man. I felt that way a lot actually. I knew I was important on the path but I also knew there was a lot I didn't know, socially speaking. Man stuff speaking...
In the movie :
Julie: What you about? It's always about the mother.
Dorothea: Okay, Jesus, yeah
And there it is...haha. Mmmhmm. I can relate....
At one point, the doctor tells her she has an "inadequate uterus." Mind you this is in 1979 but I am curious if Doctors are still using words like "inadequate" regarding a woman's uterus?
This scene also interested me because there is a difference between the words- "might be difficult to carry a child full term" vs "can't ever have kids."
What a woman hears and walks away with after you tell her-her uterus is "inadequate," can easily shift if it feels like damage to her psyche.... just enough.. to change possible complications to "You can't have children!"
Abbie was there to see if she still had cancer (the word cancer itself is its own fearful hell to begin with) She already had to wait with possibility of death marinating in her head as she waited to hear results. And before she could even process those results- she hears the word "inadequate ," about her young uterus....
..well heck, that's a lot for a young woman to process.
This is why, when people say things like "actions speak louder than words," I'm like "whaaat....... are......... you........... talking.......about?"
To my ears -it sounds so limiting and quite frankly ...suspect.
Maybe actions speak louder than words when you've never heard words like: "I'm sorry, there was nothing more we could do," or "he/she's gone." And words like cancer or....your uterus is.....incompetent.
Those are pretty loud words.
While I do get the intention behind expressions like "actions speak louder than words," to me-it's still...limited. But only as far as the fullness of life goes.
You have to wonder how much love is missed or lost by the limited context of "Actions speak louder than words." Probably just as often and as much as.....when words and actions don't align....
Words are powerful, they matter...to pretend otherwise is to limit our understanding of their power (in my opinion)
Yet my body decided to sleep in. There could only be one reason for that...something is coming....
A few weeks ago, I noticed I accidentally deleted my calendar on my phone. I haven't fixed that yet. This particular cycle feels more intense and I think it's because there was a lot of concerns this past month. If I'm sleeping until 10 am...it's a sign...(for me anyway)
Honoring the sacred feminine 'moontime' cycle
Many moons ago, the female menstrual cycle was celebrated as a gift of fertility and femininity. Our cycle naturally aligned with the waxing and waning of the moon. Shedding of menstrual ‘blood’ was considered a special time for rest, purification and rejuvenation. Various cultures including Native American, Aborigine, Druid and African, regarded a menstruating woman to be incredibly sacred and blessed with a gift to heal, protect or to bridge into the higher realms of awareness. Some cultures still do honour this, although much of the knowledge has been suppressed, distorted and lost to the sands of time. During this phase a woman is endowed with enormous power of the divine feminine, so it is no wonder that a patriarchal world of control would be afraid of it.
In honouring our moontime we often find balance and a re-centering of our state of being. If we miss this time of re-centering, then we may spend the rest of the month out of sync to the sacred rhythm, never quite catching up with ourselves. Thankfully we are offered the opportunity once each month (until we are not) - yet it is up to us as women to find our inner strength and love ourselves enough to honor this cyclical event.
The divine male and female energies are meant to complement one another, working together harmoniously in a sacred dance of divine unity. Embracing both in their authenticity is essential for spiritual evolution, so those cultures that honour this are incredibly connected to the natural flow and are blessed.
Soul Sunday & The Red Tent
He's also consistently inviting me to "The Strairway to Heaven" hikes, which I call "The stairway to bad knees" haha
I'm a no, no thank you... every time. This man is way way out of my fitness league and therefore, I fear him. LOL
He's very persistent and very kind and I'm as persistent in my no thank you.
Koko head trail? You know, when I hike, I am slower than slow with a touch of ADD. I will do it but I will do it with the consciousness that I am not going to be getting hurt or injured for any reason what-so-ever...
If he actually gets me to do this...if you see me doing this...it will be a very big deal cause my no...is pretty solid.
This eastern end of Oʻahu is quite scenic and most of the area is part of Koko Head Regional Park, administered by the City & County of Honolulu. The following features and natural areas are found between Koko Head and the eastern end of the island at Makapuʻu:
- Koko Crater is a large tuff cone that visually dominates the area. Within the crater are horse stables and the Koko Crater Botanical Garden specializing in cacti and succulents.
- Hanauma Bay is a tuff ring breached by the ocean.
- Lānaʻi Lookout is a scenic lookout that features a very distant view of the Island of Lānaʻi to the southeast of Oʻahu. Molokaʻi, directly across the Ka'iwi Channel, is closer and nearly always visible during the day; Lānaʻi is visible only under good atmospheric conditions, although if visible from anywhere on Oʻahu, it will be visible from this pull-out/parking area. The cremated ashes of President Barack Obama's mother, Stanley Ann Dunham (1995) and maternal grandmother, Madelyn Lee Payne Dunham (2008) were scattered here.
- Hālona Blowhole is a blowhole in the rocky shore. A large pull-out/parking area is present. The adjacent Hālona Cove is best known as the site of the love scene between Burt Lancaster and Deborah Kerr in the movie From Here to Eternity.
- Sandy Beach is a popular beach for surfing and a park popular for kite flying because trade winds (offshore here) are strong and steady most days. Sea conditions off the beach tend to be rough most of the time and the bottom drops away relatively quickly, so this is not a beach for relaxed swimming, but very popular for more extreme water sports and watchers.
So she cooked, slowly with a lot of love....and she spent time inward...
It was interesting...there was actually an internal struggle. I felt weak...not just with yoga but I almost made myself wrong for declining my body work appointment. I thought that was interesting. Once I freed myself and honored what I needed... I no longer felt "weak." In fact, when I made the clear best decision from what I needed...I felt very peaceful and in that peacefulness...after my nap, I wanted to be in nature...