The women I have in my world are orgasmic women. They do what they want when they want without attachment or imprinting. None of us seem to be afraid of a little thing called pleasure. That's my inner inner circle. I'm fortunate that I have other women who don't subscribe to my way but they also do not judge me at all. It's like we all know, we have the right to make choices and those choices can be different but we just respect ourselves and each other. And I also believe it's because we all have a high level of integrity as women. When you have clarity in who you are and you live within your own personal integrity system, there really isn't a whole lot of time to be all judgmental of others...
In my inner pleasure women circle, we don't starve ourselves of life pleasures, not because we don't respect ourselves as women but because we absolutely do.
For us, there are no shortages. No need to pretend and no reason to do anything other than what feels good. Even inside of that we all have our individual no's which seem to be based on preferences.
Our bodies guide us and we can trust our bodies to guide us because we are not afraid of our desires. What we also all seem to have in common is; our intelligence -in addition to a very high regard for our feminine chaotic, our cycles and all of that. In this way we absolutely love being women.
Moved by our nature vs moved by a set of rules someone laid out for us.
We need do NOTHING! All a woman ever has to do is....allow herself to be fully herself and that includes her cycle, her desires, her being fearless about what is true for her.
By the way:
Sifu Slim, (pron. "See-Foo" means "teacher" in Cantonese) Author/Speaker/Coach, NSCA-CPT Wellness, Fitness, and Life Coaching with Empathetic Awareness: Is someone I met in December of 2016 at Kauai Ranch. Energetic ease followed by a conversation regarding the quality of life our monthly gathering provides us women with when we gather, sing, dance and eat in celebration. I shared my work with him, he shared his work with me. He has a level of empathetic awareness that exists on a broad range. His theories on why women suffer so much was deeply relevant and surprisingly on point. He also has a level of reverence where he will only lean in to have conversations with women who he feels will be open to what he has to say. As it's not his intent to offend or have a woman suffer more due to his world view. We were scheduled to create a video here in Hawaii shortly after I met him however, our timing wasn't working. I believe one of the times I explained I was at the height of my hormonal imbalance and needed to rest. In his level of awareness, he was more than gracious and even appreciated my desire to take care of myself. Another time, he ran over time wise and there was a full bodied apology. He valued my time as he did his own. Now we have come full circle. The interviews should take place in the next few days.
I reached out to him because I'm beginning the development of the:
FEMALE HORMONES PROJECT
He responded to me right away.
We picked up where we left off and as we are in communication he shared a series of videos with me as well. Both of my walks today, I was listening to the videos he sent me. A few of those videos were lectures and controversial videos with Christopher Hitchens.
Christopher Eric Hitchens (13 April 1949 – 15 December 2011) was an Anglo-American author, columnist, essayist, orator, religious and literary critic, social critic, and journalist. He contributed to New Statesman, The Nation, The Atlantic, London Review of Books, The Times Literary Supplement, Slate, Free Inquiry and Vanity Fair. Hitchens was the author, co-author, editor or co-editor of over 30 books, including five collections of essays, on politics, literature and religion. A staple of public discourse, his confrontational style of debate made him both a lauded intellectual and a controversial public figure.
His quote about religion:
To terrify children with the image of hell... to consider women an inferior creation. Is that good for the world?
Hitchens said of libertarianism, “I have always found it quaint, and rather touching, that there is a movement in the US that thinks Americans are not yet selfish enough.”
Underneath his snarky annoyed intent in "Why women aren't funny" he's actually totally correct in saying: Women don't need to be funny to be attractive, we are already attractive. I agree with him. 100000% I feel he is intentionally being crude because he is annoyed. And I love that I can make people laugh just by being....myself LOL
In the video on the right...in his earlier years....He's got good points there too.
Fascinatingly, in another video, he was called a "sexist" by a woman because he said whomever became his wife, he would prefer she stay home with their children however she is also free to work if that is what she wants. It was wild how, in his sharing his truth, his preference and his thoughts that a woman would be better for the children than he would be, that she didn't need to work as far as he was concerned AND she could if she wanted to.....that was somehow: Sexist.
When I hear him say that, what I hear is a man who is more for women than the woman is. Because what he is saying is: his future wife has the choice to be the woman/ mother she wants to be based on what she wants. Based on what will make HER happy. He also said if she wanted to work he thought that would be great too. He would support whatever she wanted and he felt women are better for children so he wouldn't require the mother of his children to work. He is full bodied in this way. Honest. Unapologetic. His family values.
And this woman kept calling him a sexist. I'm like woah. Something is off. It was brutal actually. I've been working with women a long time. The breast feeding mom and her focus on the bottle feeding mother. Or the conservative woman and the liberal...what does it matter? If a woman is happy and moving in alignment with her own truth...that is all that matters.
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1. Women's operating system. As seen in hunter-gatherer populations.
2. Problem/Needs of women then and now.
Security, understanding their operating system. Balancing their hormone and personalities. The move to farming: more kids, more pushing man away to younger, "available and enticing" women. The Waltons on Walton's Mountain vs. the disgruntled, unhappy homestead. Busy happy vs. busy seeking outside sex and companionship. Male lion as compared to human males.
3. Solutions for hunter-gatherers and modern females. There is no "pill", the remedy is always lifestyle. Lifestyle means
Dominating and non-dominating males.
Women sometimes or often pick the dominant male personality.
Now back to Orgasm (As a health benefit, moving beyond cultural fear here)
WHAT AM I WAITING FOR, AND WHY?
Here's some bullet points on the LIFE benefits of women giving themselves permission to....receive pleasure (From themselves or someone else, married or single....in the same way it doesn't matter if you breast feed or bottle feed....as long as you, as a woman...are being fed the nutrients you need)
There is so much power in the orgasm that an organization in San Francisco, called One Taste, is devoted to the practice of “orgasmic meditation,” in which two partners focus on achieving the female orgasm. Recently, actress and former Playmate, Karen Lorre, revealed to HuffPost Live that she has 11 orgasms a day due to One Taste’s new meditation practices. Even men have claimed that they receive health benefits by just pleasuring a woman. In a New York Times article on One Taste, a man confessed that “fixing his attention on a tiny spot of a woman’s body improves his concentration at work.”
“There is some evidence that orgasms can relieve all kinds of pain — including pain from arthritis, pain after surgery and even pain during childbirth,” Lisa Stern, a nurse practitioner who works with Planned Parenthood, told Woman’s Day. That’s thanks to pain-relieving oxytocin and endorphins, reported MSNBC contributor Brian Alexander. Alexander cited research from Beverly Whipple, who found that women’s pain tolerance and pain detection increased by 74.6 percent and 106.7 percent respectively, when those women masturbated to orgasm.
In 1997, a group of researchers in Wales decided to look into the relationship between orgasms and mortality. They studied the sexual frequency of 918 men between the ages of 45 and 59. They evaluated those who died from coronary heart disease and discovered that those who had two or more orgasms a week died at a rate half of those who had orgasms less than once a month. The researchers concluded that “sexual activity seems to have a protective effect on men’s health.”
While women’s orgasms have not been studied as extensively, Howard S. Friedman, PhD, and author of “The Longevity Project: Surprising Discoveries for Health and Long Life,” decided to look into research conducted on couples. He cited a marital satisfaction study conducted by Stanford psychologist Lewis Terman in 1941, looking at the sex lives of 1,500 Californian couples. Terman recorded the frequency of orgasms these women had. Twenty years later, Friedman and his colleagues studied the death certificates of each of the women in Terman’s study.
What they discovered was that the women who reported a frequency of orgasm during intercourse tended to live longer than those who reported being less sexually fulfilled.
Orgasms sure get your blood flowing, and that doesn’t exclude blood flow to your brain. In August, Rutgers researchers Barry Komisaruk and Nan Wise, asked female subjects to masturbate while lying in a MRI machine that measured blood flow to the brain. When the females orgasmed, it increased blood flow to all parts of the brain while allowing nutrients and oxygenation to travel to their noggins as well.
Forget Botox, just have an orgasm. Dr. David Weeks, a British consultant clinical psychologist and former head of old age psychology at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, spent 10 years quizzing thousands of men and women of differing ages about their sex lives. He discovered that those between the ages of 40 and 50 who reported having sex 50 percent more than other respondents looked younger. While this study does not explicitly state the specifics as to why orgasms could make you look younger, Weeks says this could be because intercourse releases the human growth hormone, which makes skin look more elastic.
There’s no reason to stop having sex when you get older. In fact, you are more likely to enjoy it even more as you enter old age. A study in The American Journal of Medicine found that sexual satisfaction in women increases with age. Researchers from the University of California studied 806 women living in a planned community home. The study measured the sexual activity of these women who had a median age of 67 and were all postmenopausal. The findings reported that sexually satisfaction actually increased with age, with approximately half of the women over 80 years old reporting sexual satisfaction almost always or always. So, never stop having orgasms!
This weeks Question:
What am I waiting for, and why?
I am aware, I am often not politically correct, however, political correctness does not leave much room for humans to be fully human and the lack of reverence, intimacy or connection some of those politically correct things create...EEK... no thank you
I am aware, in my ninja speed and my politically incorrect ways of being...I may have completely missed an opportunity to move through the soul deepening with McDreamy/McSteamy Hybrid and I will most likely think of him here and there throughout the next few weeks, which you can't even tell people that sort of thing. We are all supposed to "pretend" we don't think of others when we do. I was so excited by the possibility of getting to know him...why would I lie and pretend otherwise?
However, it is through my experience with McDreamy/McSteamy Hybrid that this question began to formulate within my consciousness:
What am I waiting for and why?
For 10 years....I put someone else's "why" before connection, intimacy and all of my legitimate needs on the back burner as I waited for all of the supposed more important things to be handled, and those supposed more important things were never handled. Ever. There was always another "important thing," or an "emergency" right around the corner. But I am my word. Now I don't give my word, if I haven't agreed, we don't have an agreement.
I am not waiting....to be seen, known, felt or experienced for someone else's why.
In my marriage, the world all around us- all agreed "He was the important one"
My integrity bar began to lower, my life force began to drop and all that other stuff that happens when we sit and wait for someone to be ready. That happens in marriages, relationships of all kinds because there is all that other "important stuff."
But I don't have any other "important stuff" blocking my awareness, or anything that lets me hide behind it any more. I got rid of all that stuff and that took me months on the material level and almost two years on all other levels.
So you bet your bottom I am not doing that ever ever ever again.
Me first. It has to be about me, it has to be about my happiness, my joy, the desire that exists naturally. I make no apologies to anyone for that.
Through that very short experience...I kept laughing at myself as I thought about the movie "How to lose a Guy in 10 days" for some reason...I kept thinking about scene's like this one....
I don't really have a list as much as I have an awareness of how someone needs to be open to something like this: