My friend, "Oh, that sounds absolutely horrifying"
Her response made me laugh until I was crying. I'm talking I am hysterical. She was laughing as well, which was great because we have that awesome amazing not only have to "be there," type of humor between us, but these type of things also require knowing each other through sharing ourselves combined with full acceptance of our differences.
For me, it's those kind of moments in sisterhood where the laughter really lights up my soul.
I know her and she knows me. We are opposites. As I move the way love moves and happily receive pleasure when it feels right to me....and I see that as me respecting myself. She is on lock down.
I woke up, laughed and text her what I remembered about my dream.
I'd love nothing more than to see her meet someone like Steve Martin's character in this same movie. And I'd love for her to give herself permission to play, even just once... as Meryl Strep did in this movie. If she does or doesn't...I love her all the same. It's her life to live as she wants.
So when"That sounds horrifying!" came flying out of her mouth...That was the best - most comical line of the day. That happened hours ago and I'm still enjoying it. It was that good!
Yet, (and this is why we are friends) she gave me the space, time and respect by allowing me to share more information and once I did, she agreed with concepts like: fearlessly connecting to yourself, fearless communication, being able to handle rejection, being able to fearlessly communicate with others and things of that nature. There was nothing about any of those things that didn't feel right to her.
Let me just say....
The concept of men as healers along the path...essentially blows her mind
The concept of deep layers of being deeply cautious.... blows mine
What makes us appear to be the odd couple actually creates the perfect amount of synergy. She helps me and I help her.
As I was sharing a recent "unease," I am currently experiencing She gave me a reminder something that was so good that also sums up in the most simplistic way - the combined beauty of our individual natures and how the swirling/synergy, the give and take, the willingness to share ourselves has tremendous value.
"Trust but Verify."
(ALSO EXCELLENT DATING ADVICE)
Ronald's........ sister........ maybe?
In December of 1987 after the signing of the INF Treaty with Mikhail Gorbachev (The Russian leader) said "You repeat that at every meeting," to which Reagan replied, "I like it."
Ironically: The origin of that phrase stems from a Russian proverb
"Doveruai no proveruai" translated means TRUST BUT VERIFY
One of the most important things to discover and honor as a women is to know what will and will not damage our own psyche's. In my opinion, that's an individual journey for all of us. I can't do my life like my friend does hers and she can't do hers like mine. We both need to be true to ourselves first. I value her because she offers me freedom in this way. Those are the people I cherish because growth happens softly, organically...on it's own. There is no force...it just happens.. Although, when it happens it can feel intense...it's still being created by softness...
I really love that
After my TM the other day, I was thinking about Nicole Daedone's creation called "The Turned-On Woman's Manifesto
This is when I learned it's now an actual 115 page E-Book. Available to any woman I LOVE THIS!!!
To know if this is something that vibrates with you as a woman...
She begins this way:
Would it be okay if your gravestone read: She was an exceptionally mediocre woman? If your eulogy went something like: “She followed every rule with precision. She rarely made a mistake and was a great champion of the status quo. She never any ruffled feathers, took any great risks, suffered any great loss. She always operated within the bounds of appropriateness. She had the love and acceptance of her community, family, and friends, though no one knew her. Her life was smooth sailing because she never rocked the boat. She contained her passion, her dreams, and her danger enough that they could call her a good woman.” No, your epitaph will begin: “She redefined what it meant to be a good woman.” It will say: “She scaled mountains, in hiking boots and in heels. She started in her own backyard and then went all the way around the world. She accepted challenges with curiosity and determination. She emerged victorious regardless of outcome, knowing both the pleasure of success and the grace of failure. She tasted long hot days and cool still nights, at home wherever she found herself. She wasn’t always popular, but she was always true. She wasn’t always comfortable, but no one can say she didn’t enjoy her life. She explored her edges, increased her capacity, and lived as big as she could dream. Moved by bliss and pain, she played her heart out one moment at a time. Dialed in. Courageous. Turned on.” If this sounds more like you, what are you waiting for?