White Fragility is one of those things!
White Fragility is a state in which even a minimum amount of racial stress be- comes intolerable, triggering a range of defensive moves. These moves include the outward display of emotions such as anger, fear, and guilt, and behaviors such as argumentation, silence, and leaving the stress-inducing situation.
The image above was my face when I heard this as a defined state, but mostly, that was my face when I was told-I DO THIS.
I really could not say either way if this was true for me or not because
1. I didn't even know this term/state existed
2. There's always something for me to evolve inside of my own consciousness so it's always possible I do something I am not conscious of
3. It is my life's work/purpose and passion to discover those areas so that I may walk freely and help others do the same and since I work with families, it's an excellent topic for me to understand. Generally Speaking
I've spent enough time learning. The White Fragility Concept is not for me I can't carry that but I can see where it would be useful and beneficial. And I'm excited about creating a bunch of articles in the magazine that ca have people connect to their hearts-I'd love to create something that allows people to experience empathy.
I was thinking about my brother and his wife. She's black, he's white. They have been married for, gosh-I think two decades now? They really love each other. They laugh all the time and they actually address this topic almost every day just by walking together.
Their love seems to be stronger than any element outside of their love.
Recently I saw a movie that reminded me of my brother and his wife. I don't know all the details of their love story, I don't have access to all of the challenges cultural or otherwise.
In the movie "Something New" It was Kenya and Kenya's family who had a hard time with the fact that she was "lowering" herself to even spend time with a white man, let alone a white man who had a landscaping business. She had a hard time finding her love and did give up on Brian at some point through the story, which you know...that's how a lot of love stories go anyway
But in the end, their love was stronger. LOVE WON